"I will be a better parent. I
won't spank my kid."
Ah yes, controversy about parenting!
I've noticed that I've yet to place my opinion on this so-called "discipline".
I find it out of date and disrespectful, not to mention cruel. To me, this is another form of child abuse.
You wouldn't slap your kid across the face, right? So what difference does it make when you smack the living crap out of their butt? (no pun intended). This is not "discipline". No, discipline is when you teach
your child right from wrong. There's a reason corporal punishment is banned in schools; you don't hit a child.
No, what you do is, you wait for them to chill out, and then explain to them why what they did was wrong. Hitting is not needed. It's barbaric. What exactly is the point of hitting your kids ass? It's basically saying, "I'm bigger than you, so I can hurt you." Where's the love in that? If you wouldn't hit your coworker, then you shouldn't hit your child. Yeah, you're bigger than them now, but sooner or later they will be bigger than you.
There are laws about not harming someone you don't know, but not someone who's care you're in charge of? This is the ultimate hypocrisy. This is basically saying "I love you, but I'm going to hurt you,"
It makes absolutely no sense. But I was spanked and I turned out fine!!
Right, and tell me you DON'T have anger problems, anxiety problems, depression and so on. Stop being in denial. Spanking solves nothing. Logic does.
Here's are a few cases about spanking and what harm it causes. [link] [link]
My mom was spanked, slapped and body shamed when she was younger. Now, she suffers from depression and anxiety. My aunts were also spanked, slapped and body shamed. They both developed mental disorders because, not only were they abused, my grandmother would leave the house, saying she was going to the market, and not return home until days later. My uncle developed an eating disorder and became feeble minded from all the needless child abuse.
So really, is spanking your kid necessary? No. No it's not. If you just treat your kid with the same respect you want them to treat you with, they'll be fine. If they misbehave because you didn't give them what they want, send them to their room, wait for them to calm the fuck down, and TALK TO THEM. Your child isn't less of a person just because they're younger than you. They have feelings and thoughts. How are they supposed to trust you with anything if they know you're going to beat them afterwards? That's not love. That's an abuse of power.
They're your child. You're supposed to love them.
Spare the rod and teach them.